The non-earning spouse facing a divorce, particularly where there has been a long-term marriage, may find that her or his “job” has disappeared.
You may be a wife who married shortly after graduating from college and whose family’s choices centered on what was best for your husband’s career. After 20+ years, the children are off to college, perhaps your husband has found a younger woman, and you are left with outdated career assets and no idea what the future holds.
You might also be a young father. Perhaps you stayed home after the birth of your first child because you had more flexibility in your career and your wife was the higher wage earner. Two more children later, your wife has decided you are uninteresting and wants a divorce. You find yourself unable to compete with the young, IT-savvy applicants who are getting the job offers.
You also may be a father who stayed home after you and your domestic partner adopted your children, because you made a joint decision to have a consistent parent at home. Now, ten years later, your relationship is ending, and your career options have been narrowed.
Envisioning a different future
If you find yourself in one of these or a similar scenario, our family law attorneys can help. We have worked with many clients who have been unable to find rewarding, well-compensated employment and therefore are unable to maintain their standard of living without the income of their more highly-compensated spouse.
The client may need vocational counseling about new careers that build on the client’s interests and strengths. She or he may consider going back to school, or may develop a plan to utilize existing network of contacts. The client may need to develop new capabilities in managing finances – both monthly budgeting and long-term investing. And the client definitely needs a long-term financial plan including support and an equitable share of the assets accumulated during the marriage.
In short, the crisis posed by the ending of the marriage has another side to it – that of an opportunity to consider and try new avenues that were not available within the confines of the prior life. Our experienced, future-oriented divorce lawyers can help you envision those new avenues and negotiate a financial settlement that takes into account your career sacrifice.