The Modern Divorce is Collaborative Divorce

By , Published On: December 9, 2020

The Modern Divorce, a blog series, looks at all aspects and considerations of the Collaborative Divorce Process. This is the first post of a multi-part series.

When you think about divorce, what image comes to mind? For many pop-culture fans, War of the Roses, a movie filmed in 1989, stands in for the “typical” divorce. In that film, the husband and wife fight like cats and dogs to the point of death, with no one, especially their children, winning. Thirty years later many divorces are, and can be, very different.

Many people today opt for a much newer process called “Collaborative Divorce.” In a Collaborative Divorce, spouses work with their attorneys to negotiate a settlement that addresses the goals, interests, and needs of both parties. The parties agree to resolve the matter outside of court and agree to fully disclose all relevant matters. This process can be used where the parties are still friendly with one another, if the parties are not currently speaking, or for any relationship in between these two extremes. The collaborative process is much better for children as it is designed to facilitate a better co-parenting relationship post-divorce and provides for a more creative resolution of financial assets.

The Collaborative Divorce process involves other trained professionals in the process to aid the attorneys and each client as they are crafting a resolution. These experts can include:

  • A divorce coach,
  • A trained mental health professional,
  • A trained financial neutral, and/or,
  • A child specialist.

Since each family is different, each family will have different professional needs in this process. Throughout this series, we will describe common scenarios we encounter and how Collaborative Divorce can be beneficial in each situation.

The goal of many Collaborative Divorces is to craft a durable agreement, with the help of the collaborative team – this is an agreement that both parties can live with and that serves the needs of their families for years to come. Additionally, by working with your partner through the Collaborative Divorce process, you learn to work with them post-divorce, which for co-parents is invaluable.

In no other area of your life would someone expect everything about your world to change and you and your family to master it overnight. Collaborative Divorce is the support system you need to transition your family from married to divorced without sacrificing your or your children’s health or happiness.

For more information on the Collaborative Divorce Process, contact Alice Ahearn or Emily Baker.

The Modern Divorce Series Preview: The second post in the series, Alice Ahearn examines the cost savings of a Collaborative Divorce.